Post Betrayal Transformation
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Health Coaching
rebuilding our mind, body & worldview after betrayal
Post Betrayal Transformation® refers to the process of healing & rebuilding after experiencing betrayal. Betrayal can take many forms, such as infidelity, deceit, or a breach of trust in the workplace, with family & with friends. It can leave the betrayed feeling deeply hurt, angry, lost & confused.
Betrayal recovery is unlike any other crisis recovery because betrayal is voluntary, intentional & personal. It not only shatters our world, it shatters our sense of self & our ability to trust in anyone or anything, including ourselves. Confidence is shattered. Rejection, abandonment, belonging, worthiness, trust...all of these & more have to be rebuilt.
The more we trusted & the more someone is dependent on the betrayer, the deeper the wound. Let’s take a child, for example, who is dependent on their parent. That would have a devastating impact compared to a friend sharing an intimate secret. It’s still going to have an impact, you’re still going to have some healing to do, but not nearly to the same extent. Some betrayals bring us to our knees because these were the people who we trusted & depended on the most & they were our safe space in the world.
It requires a different set of tools to heal from betrayal. Contrary to the old saying, time does not heal all wounds. We could have a betrayal from 10, 20 years ago that is still wreaking havoc on our health, as if it were yesterday. We must do the work. When we move through the proven & predictable stages of post betrayal & we heal, we are forever transformed.
Those who have taken the Post Betrayal Syndrome® quiz report experiencing many of the classic mental, physical & emotional symptoms::
68% have sleep issues
71% have low energy
63% have extreme fatigue
47% have weight changes
45% have digestive issues
78% are overwhelmed
70% are walking around in a state of disbelief
68% are unable to focus
64% are in shock
62% are unable to concentrate
80% have anxiety
84% have an inability to trust
67% prevent themselves from forming deep relationships because they’re afraid of being hurt again
82% find it hard to move forward
81% feel a loss of personal power
80% are hyper-vigilant
94% deal with painful triggers
90% want to move forward, but they don’t know how
While these symptoms are created due to the shock betrayal creates, the symptoms can last for decades if we don’t intentionally & deliberately move through the betrayal.
Betrayal follows us around like a shadow unless we dive in & do the work.
when we face it & feel it, we heal it.
There are 5 proven & predictable stages we go through in order to fully heal & transform after betrayal. We even know what happens physically, mentally & emotionally at every stage & we know what it takes to move from one stage to the next & to get unstuck.
Not only is healing from betrayal possible, it’s predictable.
Is it easy? Definitely not. It’s probably the hardest AND most transformative work we'll ever do.
Betrayal doesn’t need to define us. While we’re now in a club we never chose to be in, we have been initiated & it’s time for the caterpillar to become the butterfly. Use your experience as a launchpad for your transformation. Don’t let the experience keep you stuck. It’s taken so much from you already. It’s time to take your power back & use it to heal & transform.
Even if you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel yet, it’s there.
You've got this!
